Target: Mrs. Rebecca Sinclair
Goal: For army general’s wife to stop blaming military lifestyle for her husband’s adultery
Army Brig. General Jeffrey Sinclair was recently accused of several sexual misconduct charges. His wife Rebecca Sinclair has explained that his several infidelities are due to the army’s rigorous and demanding lifestyle. Mrs. Sinclair needs to stop blaming her husband’s occupation for his moral wrongdoing and infidelity.
At Army Brig. General Jeffrey Sinclair’s hearing in Fort Bragg, North Carolina, evidence was presented for charges of forcible sodomy, violating orders, engaging in inappropriate relationships, wrongful sexual misconduct, and adultery. His wife thinks that the army will drop all charges and is continuing to stand by his side. But more than that, she is also pointing the finger at the army lifestyle for his infidelity, as if he did not have a choice in the matter.
It is no question that members of the military face difficulty. Deployments, the stress of war, and constant moves from city to city are just a few of the challenges that military families have to face. It can be tempting to cheat or to find solace in another human being when spouses spend continuous hours apart from each other. But this is still no excuse. Love, commitment and staying faithful are all choices, just as cheating, sexual misconduct, and lying are.
Mrs. Sinclair has every right to come to her husband’s defense and support him no matter what, but it is a cop-out to blame the army for his personal wrongdoing. A man or woman cheats because he or she chooses to do so, not because the job made him or her do it. Stress and demands can lower one’s resistance but it does not take away one’s freedom of choice. He made a choice to cheat on his wife, breaking his vows with her but also choosing to break the army’s rules and regulations.
Please sign the petition below asking Mrs. Rebecca Sinclair to stop excusing her husband’s infidelity and misconduct by blaming the profession he chose to pursue.
Dear Mrs. Rebecca Sinclair,
I am sorry to hear of your husband’s sexual misconduct charges that were recently filed. I think it is admirable that you want to stay committed to him for the sake of your marriage and family, but you have also blamed the army for his infidelities. Please stop blaming your husband’s cheating on his job, abdicating any responsibility on his part.
Life in the military can take its toll physically as well as emotionally, especially when spouses spend months or years apart. But infidelity is always a choice, and does not have to be an automatic given in the military. I agree with you that it may be harder to stay faithful in a high-pressure job where one’s life can be put in danger daily. But police officers and firemen/women also have demanding high-pressure jobs, and are putting their lives on the line daily too. Should they get a free “adultery pass” as well?
I still appreciate all of your sacrifice as a military wife and thank you for your husband’s service. But I encourage you to stop blaming the army for your husband’s personal choice to violate his marriage vows to you and to violate the oath he took as a commissioned officer in the army.
[Your Name Here]
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