Reject Attack on Couples in the Midst of Divorce


Target: Massachusetts State Senator Richard J. Ross

Goal: Demand that the senator reject a bizarre attack on people seeking divorce

People don’t get married planning to divorce, but sometimes things happen. Partners may find they want different things out of life. Infidelity and compromised trust can leave couples questioning their ability to work things out. Regardless of the motivations for divorce it is rarely an easy decision to make or a comfortable process to endure. And if one Massachusetts resident has his way it could become even more awkward.

Constituent Robert LeClair submitted a bill to the Massachusetts senate which insists that “the party remaining in the home shall not conduct a dating or sexual relationship within the home until a divorce is final and all financial and custody issues are resolved, unless the express permission is granted by the courts,” Think Progress reports. Senator Richard Ross claims not to support this constituent’s bill personally but did not reject it for consideration. Because Massachusetts state law requires a waiting period of at least 120 days before a divorce can be finalized this new bill would demand that the spouse living in the marital home get a court’s permission to date or have sex even months after initiating divorce proceedings.

This bizarre and antiquated legislation does little to protect children and instead asks the courts to meddle with the most private of matters. The law has no business telling people who to date or have sex with. Tell Senator Ross to reject this attack on people seeking divorce.


Dear Senator Ross,

I am deeply disturbed to learn of legislation proposed by one of your constituents which would require certain spouses in the midst of divorce proceedings to seek court permission before dating or having sex. While the goal of protecting children is an admirable one I feel this bill would do more harm than good by interfering with such private and personal matters.

Child welfare is already addressed in divorce proceedings. If one parent is neglecting their children or exposing them to inappropriate situations you can rest assured that the other parent will raise the issue in court. Demanding that a person seek a judge’s consent before dating or having sex even months after divorce papers were served places an unjust burden on the individual, causing tremendous embarrassment and requiring them to pay additional court fees. What’s more the bill as currently written doesn’t detail the penalties for unauthorized, pre-divorce copulation.  It is poorly written and unnecessarily invasive.

While Massachusetts law gives citizens the right to propose legislation, senators have the right to dismiss bills which they feel are not in the best interests of the state. I urge you to reject this bill for consideration by the state senate. Interfering in such private matters is not the role of responsible government.


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